Series of Cool

I like to think of my life as a long series of cool things. Living decision by decision, leading to an ending I never would have expected.

When I was interviewing SweetWater Letterpress, the founder asked me how my blog was doing. I answered, “You know I’m just posting from the heart and maybe I’ll hone it in later.” To which he responded, “In my experience, personally and in business, it’s best to leave your passions out there unedited. It creates a more fantastic and just fun future.”


I really took that to heart and started thinking about rules.

“Think long-term, not short term.”

“Do as your told.”

Now I’m not saying, “let’s be super irresponsible!” but could it be possible that living life by the rules given to you is living irresponsibly by stifling your God-given talents and abilities?

When I think of change, I think “will it kill me?” Will my next step or pursuit actually lead to my untimely death or will it move my life towards a series of cool things?

This gets me thinking of collaborations – will it kill me to ask someone who is creative that I respect out to lunch to talk about life and what we’re each working on?

Or am I thinking of life in the “things I have to do” way. Is this self-pressure? Is this peer pressure? Where do your expectations come from? Your parents? Friends? Boss?

Do they make you less creative or more creative?

I like to think about these answers on a weight balance scale. You know, the one with two hangey cups suspended and if you put something in one cup, it moves down and the other cup moves up?

I place one pebble (or marble or hot pink star-shaped eraser) into one side of the scale when I go with my gut on what makes me happy. If my answer makes me unhappy, I put whatever orb I chose into the other side of the scale. Does your happy outweigh your unhappy? If not, why?

These little adjustments you make today will lead to a more kick ass future. I assure you. I’ve done this because quite frankly I was super sick of my cautious life. Super sick of how much I cared about how I was viewed by everyone and anyone. Super tired of living out someone else’s life map because I actually wanted to turn left when it said to turn right.

The next time you think about doing what you’re told, think of me. Think of your gut writhing in the opposite direction and yearning towards another avenue when you’re cramming it down the straight and narrow path you’re on.

Don’t take the easy way. Live your life as a series of cool. Will it kill you? 


Micah and I have begun to do yoga together and while I’m there, I realize how insane I really am.

There are some things that are really easy to lose sight of: the blessing of having a life long love, the ability to be a peacemaker, the delicate balance of beauty in life.

There is so much to busy our minds. Which seems trite, but I mean woah is there ever. 

As I write now, my cat is curled up next to me sleeping, Micah is across the room working, and all is calm. I’m able to think and be in this moment.

A guy at a bar once told me (and Kasandra) that whenever he feels like he’s leaving the moment he’s in, he’ll wiggle his pinky toe. It brings him back to the moment he’s in, it makes him realize that he is in this space of time for a reason and he’s missing reality if he doesn't pay attention.

When we’re in a very difficult and tense pose during yoga, our instructor guides us to think about what is causing tension in our minds as we stretch.

Mine is always this: frustration. Frustration that I can’t do the pose (though I pretend I'm flexible), frustration that there are people choose to bring pain instead of healing, frustration at my own limitations in work and life and relationships.

This causes Micah and I to talk about calibrating. Calibrating when we feel we're spacing out of moments, causing a disjointed relationship in our marriage and life around us. Intentionally living a more mindful life, journeying through the beautiful bends and (sometimes painful) stretches that create the motion of our world. 

And we calibrate. 

DIY Your Mind, Not Your Apartment

In the spirit of being non-traditional, I’ve decided to dedicate a portion of this blog to DIY. Which sounds like the most traditional blog thing I could do. But it’s not.

Since this is the opposite of a lifestyle blog, this DIY section is really for your mind, not your apartment.

Consider this a how-to for REVAMPING YOUR BRAIN SPACE.

You’re DIY-ing yourself out of non-useful, trip-you-up perspectives or situations. A DIY only you can, well, DY. The nibblets I share here are things that a lot of us think about or go through; I’m simply offering the new vantage for getting yourself out of a certain frame of thinking. And it will be specific to you. It won’t look the same for everyone.

Have you ever been in a bad headspace or situation? Who can change your ideas? No one but you. Your own hands, your own thought process. 

I’ve been in bad places mentally, physically, and emotionally. The only way I could change those situations was rolling up my sleeves and checking myself.

By DIY-ing my mind. And i'm the worst a diy-ing anything. it's hard and requires tedious thought and care. ew.  

These are my collections of lessons and thoughts that I challenge you to absorb. And with them, DIY your mind not your apartment.