Do you ever feel like a victim in your daily life?

You have to work, you have to get food to feed yourself, you have to pay the rent and bills.

But why do we to act like we have to be so unhappy to just live our lives?

We live in one of the most incredible places where we can do pretty much whatever we want, yet we act like we’re held captive to some outside driving force.

What if the work we did was actually a privilege?

What if we decided that working and paying for things was a great honor – one that many people are not able to have?


Micah and I have begun to do yoga together and while I’m there, I realize how insane I really am.

There are some things that are really easy to lose sight of: the blessing of having a life long love, the ability to be a peacemaker, the delicate balance of beauty in life.

There is so much to busy our minds. Which seems trite, but I mean woah is there ever. 

As I write now, my cat is curled up next to me sleeping, Micah is across the room working, and all is calm. I’m able to think and be in this moment.

A guy at a bar once told me (and Kasandra) that whenever he feels like he’s leaving the moment he’s in, he’ll wiggle his pinky toe. It brings him back to the moment he’s in, it makes him realize that he is in this space of time for a reason and he’s missing reality if he doesn't pay attention.

When we’re in a very difficult and tense pose during yoga, our instructor guides us to think about what is causing tension in our minds as we stretch.

Mine is always this: frustration. Frustration that I can’t do the pose (though I pretend I'm flexible), frustration that there are people choose to bring pain instead of healing, frustration at my own limitations in work and life and relationships.

This causes Micah and I to talk about calibrating. Calibrating when we feel we're spacing out of moments, causing a disjointed relationship in our marriage and life around us. Intentionally living a more mindful life, journeying through the beautiful bends and (sometimes painful) stretches that create the motion of our world. 

And we calibrate. 

DIY Your Mind, Not Your Apartment

In the spirit of being non-traditional, I’ve decided to dedicate a portion of this blog to DIY. Which sounds like the most traditional blog thing I could do. But it’s not.

Since this is the opposite of a lifestyle blog, this DIY section is really for your mind, not your apartment.

Consider this a how-to for REVAMPING YOUR BRAIN SPACE.

You’re DIY-ing yourself out of non-useful, trip-you-up perspectives or situations. A DIY only you can, well, DY. The nibblets I share here are things that a lot of us think about or go through; I’m simply offering the new vantage for getting yourself out of a certain frame of thinking. And it will be specific to you. It won’t look the same for everyone.

Have you ever been in a bad headspace or situation? Who can change your ideas? No one but you. Your own hands, your own thought process. 

I’ve been in bad places mentally, physically, and emotionally. The only way I could change those situations was rolling up my sleeves and checking myself.

By DIY-ing my mind. And i'm the worst a diy-ing anything. it's hard and requires tedious thought and care. ew.  

These are my collections of lessons and thoughts that I challenge you to absorb. And with them, DIY your mind not your apartment.