It's Not Snooping if They're Dead

In Scotland, my husband and I stumbled upon a cemetery. Naturally, I entered and started reading about everyone's lives because I feel as though that's kind of like being nosy, but the person isn't there, so it's not as socially annoying. 

Epitaphs are an interesting phenomena. 

First of all, who writes them? Also, isn't it a terrifying thought: someone else writing about your life in 140 characters or less and it immortalizes you for the rest of the ages (or until your tombstone topples over from the punishing wind)?

Most of these epitaphs told a linear story. Or gave facts about the person - super boring facts at that - unless they had two wives...#scandalous. 

What would you want yours to say? Loving spouse, fantastic pie maker, blah blah we've heard all that. We know all of that. 

What if your epitaph embodied what your everyday life was like? 

Because I'm usually very confusing, let me explain: what if everything you did in your day to day life lived on as an example for the weird, snooping traveler, dusting of your tombstone in search of some inspiration three hundred years after you're gone? 

Talk about legacy. 


Mine shall read this: 

Avid cloud watcher. 

Cat obsesser.

Boundary reducer.

Inclusive friend gatherer. 

Precarious wordsmither -lolz.

Lover of mankind. 

Most of all, she wanted you to be your best - and then share it with others. 

Go and repeat endlessly. 


Do you ever feel like a victim in your daily life?

You have to work, you have to get food to feed yourself, you have to pay the rent and bills.

But why do we to act like we have to be so unhappy to just live our lives?

We live in one of the most incredible places where we can do pretty much whatever we want, yet we act like we’re held captive to some outside driving force.

What if the work we did was actually a privilege?

What if we decided that working and paying for things was a great honor – one that many people are not able to have?

Hype Vs. Lifestyle

There are many hip things in this life. Many fads, many trends, many quick to come quick to go ideas that everyone obsesses over and then lets go for the next big thing -- quicker than a five year old dropping her new doll for a newer shiny object.

What differentiates between an actual lifestyle or just hype?

photos taken at the standard hotel in downtown los angeles. 

A lot of social movements, though they’ve had genius marketing and awareness strategies, become hype after a while. I’d say after about two weeks of solid “everyone’s talking about it” those messengers lose interest and the campaign fades.

What sucks about that is occasionally we can get jaded when we hear about a topic, and talk about world issues as we would speak of last season’s shoes.

Why is that our steez as human kind? How do we talk about lifestyle through the lens of hype?

Think about "lifestyle" brands or blogs -- are they just hype coated in different language, suggesting a lasting decision? 

So quick to pick up the newest hottest thing – we gotta have it – and then drop it for the next?

What makes a lifestyle and why is that term so hard to wrap our minds around?

I think living intentionally in a certain way is hard. It’s much easier to just go with the flow and let others determine what we wear, eat, believe in, etc.

It’s easier not to think.

But what about those people that do think – who set their sights on that which is most difficult and never shift their gaze? How are they different from those around them or from you? Is creating a new future and way of life for yourself as easy as focusing for a few hours a day?