Unhappiness

Do you ever feel like a victim in your daily life?

You have to work, you have to get food to feed yourself, you have to pay the rent and bills.

But why do we to act like we have to be so unhappy to just live our lives?

We live in one of the most incredible places where we can do pretty much whatever we want, yet we act like we’re held captive to some outside driving force.

What if the work we did was actually a privilege?

What if we decided that working and paying for things was a great honor – one that many people are not able to have?

Hype Vs. Lifestyle

There are many hip things in this life. Many fads, many trends, many quick to come quick to go ideas that everyone obsesses over and then lets go for the next big thing -- quicker than a five year old dropping her new doll for a newer shiny object.

What differentiates between an actual lifestyle or just hype?

photos taken at the standard hotel in downtown los angeles. 

A lot of social movements, though they’ve had genius marketing and awareness strategies, become hype after a while. I’d say after about two weeks of solid “everyone’s talking about it” those messengers lose interest and the campaign fades.

What sucks about that is occasionally we can get jaded when we hear about a topic, and talk about world issues as we would speak of last season’s shoes.

Why is that our steez as human kind? How do we talk about lifestyle through the lens of hype?

Think about "lifestyle" brands or blogs -- are they just hype coated in different language, suggesting a lasting decision? 

So quick to pick up the newest hottest thing – we gotta have it – and then drop it for the next?

What makes a lifestyle and why is that term so hard to wrap our minds around?

I think living intentionally in a certain way is hard. It’s much easier to just go with the flow and let others determine what we wear, eat, believe in, etc.

It’s easier not to think.

But what about those people that do think – who set their sights on that which is most difficult and never shift their gaze? How are they different from those around them or from you? Is creating a new future and way of life for yourself as easy as focusing for a few hours a day? 

Series of Cool

I like to think of my life as a long series of cool things. Living decision by decision, leading to an ending I never would have expected.

When I was interviewing SweetWater Letterpress, the founder asked me how my blog was doing. I answered, “You know I’m just posting from the heart and maybe I’ll hone it in later.” To which he responded, “In my experience, personally and in business, it’s best to leave your passions out there unedited. It creates a more fantastic and just fun future.”

PHOTOS FROM THE BRADBURY BUILDING IN DOWNTOWN LOS ANGELES. 

I really took that to heart and started thinking about rules.

“Think long-term, not short term.”

“Do as your told.”

Now I’m not saying, “let’s be super irresponsible!” but could it be possible that living life by the rules given to you is living irresponsibly by stifling your God-given talents and abilities?

When I think of change, I think “will it kill me?” Will my next step or pursuit actually lead to my untimely death or will it move my life towards a series of cool things?

This gets me thinking of collaborations – will it kill me to ask someone who is creative that I respect out to lunch to talk about life and what we’re each working on?

Or am I thinking of life in the “things I have to do” way. Is this self-pressure? Is this peer pressure? Where do your expectations come from? Your parents? Friends? Boss?

Do they make you less creative or more creative?

I like to think about these answers on a weight balance scale. You know, the one with two hangey cups suspended and if you put something in one cup, it moves down and the other cup moves up?

I place one pebble (or marble or hot pink star-shaped eraser) into one side of the scale when I go with my gut on what makes me happy. If my answer makes me unhappy, I put whatever orb I chose into the other side of the scale. Does your happy outweigh your unhappy? If not, why?

These little adjustments you make today will lead to a more kick ass future. I assure you. I’ve done this because quite frankly I was super sick of my cautious life. Super sick of how much I cared about how I was viewed by everyone and anyone. Super tired of living out someone else’s life map because I actually wanted to turn left when it said to turn right.

The next time you think about doing what you’re told, think of me. Think of your gut writhing in the opposite direction and yearning towards another avenue when you’re cramming it down the straight and narrow path you’re on.

Don’t take the easy way. Live your life as a series of cool. Will it kill you?