DIY Your Mind, Not Your Apartment

In the spirit of being non-traditional, I’ve decided to dedicate a portion of this blog to DIY. Which sounds like the most traditional blog thing I could do. But it’s not.

Since this is the opposite of a lifestyle blog, this DIY section is really for your mind, not your apartment.

Consider this a how-to for REVAMPING YOUR BRAIN SPACE.

You’re DIY-ing yourself out of non-useful, trip-you-up perspectives or situations. A DIY only you can, well, DY. The nibblets I share here are things that a lot of us think about or go through; I’m simply offering the new vantage for getting yourself out of a certain frame of thinking. And it will be specific to you. It won’t look the same for everyone.

Have you ever been in a bad headspace or situation? Who can change your ideas? No one but you. Your own hands, your own thought process. 

I’ve been in bad places mentally, physically, and emotionally. The only way I could change those situations was rolling up my sleeves and checking myself.

By DIY-ing my mind. And i'm the worst a diy-ing anything. it's hard and requires tedious thought and care. ew.  

These are my collections of lessons and thoughts that I challenge you to absorb. And with them, DIY your mind not your apartment. 

You Don't Have the Life of a Cat

Work to live. Live to work.

Do you ever feel like a victim in your daily life?

You have to work, you have to get food to feed yourself, you have to pay the rent and bills. Ah, to have the life of a cat!

But why do we act like we have to be so unhappy to just live our lives?

We live in one of the most incredible places where we can do pretty much whatever we want, yet we act like we’re held captive to some outside slave-driving force.

What if the work we did was actually a privilege? What if we decided that working and paying for things was a great honor – one that many people are not able to have?

Captains of Our Cat Bags

A lot of people will tell you that I kind of just do what I want. What I want to wear or say, or just do in general. 

While I was in college, I was registering for some sort of event online, and I was given an option of a prefix for my name (Mr. Mrs. the usual…) then I came across “Captain.” I quickly envisioned myself on my very own she-boat – a yacht like sailboat that was currently somewhere off the coast of wherever JayZ and Beyonce sail. I quickly clicked “Captain” and continued registering. 

For a couple of years after that, my college would send all mail to me addressed to “Captain Bethany Turner.” I think they caught on recently because they finally removed it from my mailings, and along with it went my love for sailing (not true).

It got me thinking (to the surprise of no one): I could become anyone I wanted and it was as simple as selecting what I wanted or how I wanted to think of myself.

What if we all did that? What if we all thought of ourselves as what we know we could be and would love to be. Would we think about our lives any different?

What if we were like a cat in a bag? As I’m writing, my kitten has been pouncing around a giant Steve Madden bag on my floor for about 10 minutes (I will use a lot of cat imagery in my posts, so buckle up).

What if we approached life like that: what if we were as excited and curious about the actual life that we have (without looking to live out someone else’s life) that we appeared to be a cat in a bag? Curiously flipping around, eyes wide, and chasing after what we think we can be or get in our very own circumstances.

In our very own lives -- not becoming jealous or looking around outside our bag, but creating the world we want inside the bag we currently occupy.

I think we’d all live happier lives. I think we’d all live more fulfilled lives. I think we can all be the captains of our own cat bags.